Monday 27 February 2012

TWW & Symptom Spotting

TWW stands for two week wait. This is the two week period after you ovulate but before either a BFP or AF arrives.

Anyone TTC for a long time will appreciate how those two little weeks can seem a lifetime and each cycle that passes without a BFP makes it seem longer.

The worst part about the TWW is symptom spotting!

Most pregnancy symptoms won't start to appear until around weeks 4-6 of pregnancy. Some symptoms are also signs of AF i.e cramping, swollen boobs etc. So whilst many will claim to have had pregnancy symptoms from the second they conceived, these symptoms will most likely be the result of hormonal changes that would be present whether you conceived or not.

That however, will not stop a long term TCCer from believing every single twinge, pain or slight feeling of nausea absolutely means they must be pregnant!

For the first 8-9 months of TTC I symptom spotted every cycle and convinced myself I was pregnant (even to the point of trying to tell myself that spotting before my AF must be implantation bleeding!). It drives you crazy and makes it even worse when AF arrives, as not only are you not pregnant you also feel really silly for having convinced yourself!

I have been keeping a fertility diary, tracking my cycles and ovulation signs. It was only when I reviewed this diary I realised that a lot of the symptoms I used to fuel my pregnancy fantasy beliefs were the same symptoms I had most months for AF.

In the last few months I have avoided symptom spotting - although that does not cure my POAS addiction (pee on a stick).

For some reason this cycle my symptom spotting has returned with a vengeance!

I am currently around 7dpo and driving myself mad!

I have : sore boobs, cramping, vivid dreams, tiredness.... etc

Of course I know that even if this is my lucky month the egg will have only just implanted and it's way too early for any symptoms (plus I have had all of these before lol)!

One week down...... One week to go!

Wish me luck!

:-D xxx


Thursday 23 February 2012

New Appointment

I am a lot happier this morning as I received a call from the hospital with a a new date for my consultant appointment, 8 May - a week earlier than the original date result!

I still don't understand why they are unable to allocate you a new date in the same letter as the cancellation - why send two letters? #treemurder

In other news, I am currently in the two week wait..... Fingers crossed! Xx

Wednesday 22 February 2012

NHS #%$&!

So absolutely fuming! NHS are a bunch of #%$&! - I am 6 weeks into a 4 month wait to see the fertility consultant and I get a letter today cancelling my appointment!!!! No explanation No alternative appointment just a lame apology saying they will contact me shortly!!! Phone the number and speak to a complete numpty who can't (or won't) help and have to wait for a call back! So so so mad right now! I am going to zumba to work out my stress! Gggrrrrrrrrr if I have to wait another 6 weeks on top of the original appt I will kick some ass!

Saturday 18 February 2012

Lots of practice...

Today we looked after our gorgeous niece, Varinia. She is a completely adorable bundle of fun and we love looking after her!

Watching my hubby with her is so great, he is going to make an amazing daddy when we finally get there .

It's so tiring but completely worth it to hear her in fits of giggles.

Hopefully soon she will have a cousin to play with, but until then she is giving us someone to spoil and love xx

Monday 6 February 2012

Songs To Sum Things Up...

From various forums and blogs I have discovered some beautiful songs so I thought I would share them here. Even if you have no experience of infertility personally it may help you to understand the emotional rollercoaster anyone with fertility issues is on.

My favourite has to be I would die for that by Kellie Coffey. The first time I heard this song was via a fellow TTCer's blog and it made me cry (a lot!), but it is an amazing song that I can really relate to.



"I've been given so much,
A husband that I love.
So why do I feel incomplete?
With every test and checkup
We're told not to give up.
He wonders if it's him.
And I wonder if it's me...."


I also love It's so hard by the Dixie Chicks .



"It felt like a given
Something a woman's born to do
A natural ambition
To see a reflection of me and you

And I'd feel so guilty
If that was a gift I couldn't give
And could you be happy
If life wasn't how we pictured it....."


Finally, A woman's work by Kate Bush. Although not strictly about fertility it is hauntingly beautiful and anyone who has seen the 80's movie She's having a baby will be sobbing along with me. This was the inspiration to my blog title.



"I know you have a little life in you yet.
I know you have a lot of strength left.

I should be crying, but I just can't let it show.
I should be hoping, but I can't stop thinking..."



I find comfort in songs I can relate to and I hope you will too xx

One Day...


Anyone that has been trying to conceive for some time will understand that at times it can be hard to bear. You will come across challenging times that throw you off track and make it ever more difficult to stay positive. It could be a pregnancy announcement, being around lots of babies or simply the arrival of AF ending the hopes of another cycle.

For me this week brought the latter. I have been to this point so many times in the last 18 months that I have a routine that helps me stay focused.

I allow myself one day.

One day where I can cry, mope, feel sorry for myself and curse my inability to conceive. I listen to sad songs, watch movies, and have a good cry to get it out of my system.

But only the one day! After that I have to pick myself up and gain some perspective because I am lucky in other ways and there are much worse things happening in the world - even if it doesn't feel like it at times.

At points in my journey I have felt myself falling into the traps of depression and the misery of knowing I have put my life on hold with nothing to show for it so far.

It's not a place I want to be, so by only allowing the one day to feel sorry for myself I can then spend the rest of the time living my life and finding happiness in other ways.

The truth is I have a good life, great friends, family and an amazing husband. My life isn't complete but I am lucky.